I’m sure you’ve heard some version of the phrase, “You reap what you sow,” or “What goes around comes around,” or even “Karma’s a bitch.” There are so many idioms and proverbs based on the idea that the universe rewards (or punishes) you for your actions.
There is obviously a reason this sentiment has been so often repeated and reworked. I even have a version of it in my book, The 11 Laws of Likability.
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These aren’t just clichés — they reflect a deeper truth about how our mindset and actions influence not just our mood, but the responses we receive from others. Happiness — especially at work — isn’t just about perks or life circumstances. Often, it comes down to the energy we bring into our interactions and environments.
I have seen how a leader’s energy shapes culture, communication, and engagement. What we put out into the world doesn’t just echo back — in many cases, it becomes the very environment we and others experience.
How Your Energy Influences Your Experience
Energy isn’t abstract — it’s contagious. When leaders bring positivity and intentional engagement to negative situations, they don’t just uplift others — they change the dynamics of the interaction.
But how do we do this when we are just not feeling it? First, let’s acknowledge it isn’t always easy. It takes intention. A simple practice I use in challenging moments, or when I am feeling cranky…try to make another person smile.
I will do this at the grocery store, especially when I start getting annoyed by how slow someone is bagging their items or if the line feels endlessly long. When we intentionally choose how we show up, we influence the environment around us. I can tell you, when I can get a grumpy checkout clerk to crack a smile – it changes everyone’s mood.
Let’s take it to the workplace. This isn’t about being Pollyanna; it’s about leadership presence. About to enter a tense meeting? Instead of diving into problem mode, begin with recognition: “Before we begin, I want to acknowledge the work this team has done — especially under pressure.” Hen pause. Look around the room, make eye contact, smile. See what shifts you see in others.
This practical shift isn’t just about words — it’s about sending a signal: I see you, and I choose to lead with intention.
When Negativity Becomes a Self-Fulfilled Pattern
Most leaders don’t intend to foster negativity. But when we react to stress with frustration, sarcasm, or emotional withdrawal, we perpetuate a cycle where others respond in kind.
As a kid my dad used to hold me up in front of the mirror, and tell me to “smile,” and I’d smile, or “scowl,” and I’d see that same face scowling back at me. He would say that the world is a mirror; what you give, is what you get. No, the world is not perfect. But more often than not, if you show kindness, you receive kindness. When we offer warmth and acknowledgment, people often reflect that back. These small shifts add up.
What Leaders Want More Of (And How to Get It)
If you want more happiness, peace, or connection in your professional life, consider this: put more of it into your interactions and culture.
This isn’t just feel-good advice — it’s grounded in leadership communication principles. Your influence increases when people feel seen, appreciated, and genuinely engaged.
Here’s how to start today:
- Set an intention each morning — What energy do I want to bring today?
- Notice when you default to negative reactions. Pause. Reframe.
- Lead one small positive interaction. Compliment. Ask a thoughtful question. Share gratitude.
We often underestimate how the energy we bring into a room — and how much that matters. When leaders intentionally show up with positivity and purpose, their teams respond with engagement and resilience.
When This Approach Works — And When to Be Cautious
This energy-forward leadership doesn’t mean ignoring real problems or masking difficult emotions.
Use it well when:
- You’re navigating stress and conflict
- You want to model emotional regulation for your team
- You’re trying to deepen trust and engagement
Recalibrate when:
- People are genuinely overwhelmed (don’t force positivity)
- Situations require emotional honesty over upbeat reframing
- You need to explore why the negativity is there before shifting it
In those moments, curiosity and inquiry — not forced positivity — become your strongest tools.
Your weekly Challenge
Reflect on this question: What do you want more of — and how can you intentionally put that into your interactions?
You might be surprised how quickly your experience changes when you lead with conscious energy. Remember: connected leadership isn’t just about leading others. It’s about leading your own presence.
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