I was chatting with my new friend and mentor, 25 year old Alexa Scordato, and she said something that rung such a chord, I had to share. She said, “When asked where I wanted to go, I answered, ‘The Land of Enough.’” What a magical place that must be, this Land of Enough. Where we have enough, we do enough, we are good enough for ourselves and those around us. I want to go there too!I have always been a driven person. In college I would set a goal then strive to exceed it. I graduated 13th in my class and it bothered me that I wasn’t top 10. I know, completely ridiculous!Why is it that no matter what – it never seems to be enough? Is this gender specific or maybe the culture I grew up in or maybe just the way my brain is wired? But I am guessing that there are many who feel the same way.
On the plus side, this “more” attitude is what pushes us to excel, work harder, learn more, and potentially be a better contributor to the world around us. On the flip side it is also what stresses us out, causes insomnia, feelings of self doubt, and a lack of contentment that can leave us feeling empty.
So what to do? How do we find that elusive balance? Two thoughts have helped me.
1. “Good enough is good enough.” I heard this saying when I attended a talk about work life balance for mommies. Yes, it is true that we can probably always do more. But is more always better? Consider the idea that not doing more is the accomplishment – celebrate that and accept that it is more than OK.
2. “What’s my purpose – right now?” I tend to be doing one thing but thinking about the 10 other things I should or could be doing; which makes me less than present and potentially ineffective with whatever I am doing. This idea grounds me. I tell myself that my purpose in this moment is to do the thing I am doing and it helps push aside the other thoughts attempting to split my attention.
How do you get to the Land of Enough – I need more ideas. Please share in the comments below.