A while back I joined a group called the Authoresses comprised of established, successful female authors. I must admit, at first it was incredibly intimidating. They all seemed to know so much more than me. I felt like an outsider, like I didn’t belong, like I had nothing to offer.

Though the easy approach would have been to lurk, taking in all their knowledge while staying silent, you all know me better than that! I tried to jump in and contribute where I could and eventually gained comfort and even name recognition amongst the members.

Then my connector instincts kicked in and I realized I knew so many women who would be great additions to the group, so I invited them. I nominated so many new members the group owners made me a moderator – now I was really an insider. More than that, I was an influencer. I have a voice in the guidelines and goals of the group as it continues to evolve.

As new members join the group they are invited to introduce themselves but not everyone does. They are staying on the outside. I truly get it, there are reasons we stay on the outside sometimes. My question for you is this – what are you missing out on being on the outside?

Sometimes it is easier to get on the inside when you are joining a new group and everyone is starting at the same time. Even better, you are definitely on the inside when YOU are the one running the group.

What are you involved in and where do you want to be more involved? Need ideas, here are a few:

• Networking Lunch: Invite a few people to lunch and build it into a regular thing. Have each person invite a friend and find the common thread.
• Affinity Group: There are tons of groups in companies but is there the group you want to be part of? If not, start it. My kids finally started in-person High School and found out there is no D&D group – so they are starting one.
• Hobby Group: Do you all like to walk, sew, garden, or read books? Start a hobbyist gathering. I love walking with friends. Our monthly book club of the girls is combined with dinner and drinks – such fun!

And of course, my favorite idea: Join my book club! Better yet, be an insider in my network and host your own club with my book. I will work directly with you to make it a success!

This is a book club dedicated to discussing and practicing The Connector’s Advantage. It’s a great place to start being an insider. With your community, you can hold each other accountable, make goals, and see how connecting can open doors for you.